yep, roles are preety clear. She's the Chef, and you're doing it wrong. And you are also slow. Last year, due to health issues of her parents (and basically no free time as consequence), my wife gave me the whole organisation of xmas lunch. It was so satisfying...
But look at all of the treasures you have found! ...seriously, if I did that, I would find a pile of cat toys, a bottle of my wife's hand lotion, and probably a hairball.