I think everyone has already stated the main points I had. I think they have provided sound advice. Go through each item of dispute that you have listed, and talk it out with her to find a solution that makes each of you happy. It only works if each of you have input and collectively come up with a compromise that is satisfactory to both parties. Make sure you listen carefully to her point of view, and be willing to make changes to make her happy (and she should do the same).
$20 per month spending on paints, accessories,missing items (shields) etc that rolls over to the next month if unused has been approved
I know that one as well... and I know (some of) the reasons. .. hobby takes time and wife takes time, too... sometimes that causes conflict. .
That is another go. I can sell hobby stuff and save the money, or sell it and buy organization materials. Honestly I think I'm going to try and paint everything I currently have asap
120 naiads Assorted wrath of kings haddros 1 naiad centurion on foot 102 EM4 dwarves 70-90 mantic salamanders The majority of a lizardmen army I bought from an outgoing hobbyist. 20-30 ish old style saurus 10-15 metal temple guard Old timey slaan Skinks galore Mortarch conversion 120 skellies of various provenance 2 sphinx 2 tomb collosi 30 old style tomb guard 2 icon bearers 1 tomb king Etc Etc Etc
mm right, went through it and it makes a lot more sense, especially with how you seem to favor to paint them. Also damn that's a lot of models And it's quite fun to see the improvement over the years.